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Revenge of the mistress

She has everything to gain. He has everything to lose.

Revenge of the mistress

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If the past three months are any indication, 2010 will be a red-letter year for marital infidelity—as in scarlet A for adultery. Between mistresses spilling their secrets and philanderers walking the new perp walk of shame, the age-old adultery script is being rewritten. If Nathaniel Hawthorne’s 1850 novel, The Scarlet Letter, was published today, the scorned female protagonist would have a blog, a book deal, even a reality TV show. And that disgracing A she was forced to wear? It would be emblazoned on Reverend Dimmesdale, her higher-profile partner in sin.

This week, Tiger Woods, currently the prime attraction in the new Cheaters Hall of Shame, submitted himself to another round of atonement at the Masters before his return to the links. Fielding reporters’ questions, he admitted “what I’ve done has been terrible to my family” and spoke of the “pain and damage I’ve caused.” It was a reversal of his stance when news of his infidelity broke last November: “This is a private matter and I want to keep it that way,” he said after text messages intercepted by his wife, Elin Nordegren, led to him crashing his SUV outside their Florida house.

Then an unrelenting “mistress” cavalcade —15 at last count—revealed the world’s best golfer had turned his marriage into a public thruway: he risked bringing STDs home by having unprotected sex and, the ultimate indignity, he invited a porn star into his marital bed when Elin was away. The clichéd lines he used to lure them—his marriage was loveless, his wife didn’t like sex—only amplified the betrayal. Within weeks, Woods’s reputation as a stalwart family man and disciplined professional was in ruins. Not only had he violated his marital vows but, seemingly as grievously, he had sullied his public who’d bought into his carefully constructed clean-living image. In January, the golfer staged a televised press conference, at which his wife was visibly absent, to grovel. “I was unfaithful, I had affairs, I cheated,” he said. “What I did was unacceptable, and I am the only one to blame.” He then submitted to the requisite rehab for “sexual addiction.” By then the damage had been done: Elin had moved out with their two children, his commercial endorsements were evaporating, and he had spiralled from hero to laughingstock—from Tiger to “Cheetah.”

In a post-Clintonian era, you’d think adultery would be accepted as a fact of life, like death and taxes. High-profile marriages, prominently the Clintons’, survive it. A recent Associated Press survey claims infidelity is cited as the reason in only 17 per cent of divorces. Yet the stigma surrounding betraying a spouse is on the rise—so much so that a blackmailer last year tried to extort US$2 million from David Letterman to stay silent about the talk-show host’s long-term affair with an assistant. Last month, the New York Times branded biker and reality TV star Jesse James an “adulterous jerk” after he admitted he had put his marriage to beloved actress Sandra Bullock on the line by conducting an 11-month affair with a “tattoo model” who sold her story to a tabloid, which triggered another 10 women to come forth. Facing the firestorm, James borrowed from Woods’s playbook: “It’s because of my poor judgment that I deserve everything bad that is coming my way,” he said before checking into a treatment facility “to deal with personal issues” and to try to save his marriage.

Edward Shorter, a history professor at the University of Toronto, has dubbed the ritualistic shaming of adulterers the “New Puritanism.” “What has changed in the last half century is the fact private behaviour is seen as a proxy of public behaviour,” he says. “It wouldn’t have occurred to anyone to evaluate Kennedy’s effectiveness as a president by using his private morality as a measuring stick.” Not only men are subject to this metric, he notes: Iris Robinson, the 60-year-old Irish politician, and wife of Northern Ireland’s first minister, was forced to step down as an MP last year amid revelations she’d had an affair with a teenager. Even pro athletes whose  affairs are legendary—even expected—aren’t exempt, says Shorter: “Woods’s leadership role to youth makes him vulnerable in a way sports heroes 50 years ago were not. Did Joe DiMaggio have affairs? Who knows? Who cared?”

Of course, DiMaggio lived decades before a celebrity-obsessed 24-hour news cycle chased stories broken by Even the past decade has seen a dramatic shift in press coverage of marital infidelity. In 2000, the National Enquirer broke Rev. Jesse Jackson’s affair with an employee, a relationship that produced a child and raised questions of improper campaign spending.

Mainstream media coverage was minimal, as was public outrage. Jackson settled with the woman out of court, remained married, and returned to his perch as America’s go-to guy in a national moral emergency. Ten years later, the Enquirer is up for a Pulitzer for exposing John Edwards’s four-year affair with Rielle Hunter, a scenario that echoes Jackson’s. Only this time, the dalliance made international headlines, torpedoed the presidential candidate’s political career, proved the death knell for his marriage and now sees Edwards facing federal grand jury indictment—and jail time—for allegedly directing campaign funds to Hunter, who worked as a campaign “videographer.”

Edwards thought he could stage-manage the story as so many politicians before him had: he dismissed the first allegations in 2007 as “ridiculous,” adding: “I’ve been in love with the same woman for 30-plus years.” He even renewed his wedding vows with his cancer-stricken wife, Elizabeth, on their 30th anniversary in 2008. That was a month before the Enquirer published photographs of him meeting with Hunter and her baby girl at a hotel. Again, Edwards tried to spin it, sitting for a TV interview in which he admitted to an affair but denied paternity—a role assumed by his aide Andrew Young in another elaborate ruse. By the time Edwards admitted in January of this year that he was the father—and that his wife had filed for divorce—the spectacle had descended into farce and the only shocking aspect remaining was that the charade had been perpetuated for so long.

Yet the public appetite for details remains unsated. The more Hunter runs off at the mouth, the more Edwards seems the fool. An unrepentant Hunter broke her silence in a March GQ interview in which she gushed about “the force field” of her love with “Johnny,” revealed the couple had sex the day they met, took a few shots at Elizabeth Edwards and posed, scantily clad, for photos. There’s more to come: earlier this week, Oprah Winfrey announced she’d snagged Hunter’s first TV interview.

Part of the fascination, of course, is the window adultery provides into the mysteries of modern marriage. Historian Elizabeth Abbott, author of the 2003 book A History of Mistresses, observes that “mistressdom” has traditionally existed as a “parallel institution” to marriage. Now the rules of “mistressdom” are blurry and expectations mixed. “Feminism blew the classical kept mistress away,” says Shorter. “Women today are too active in the labour force.” Indeed, the word itself is archaic, summoning the image of a woman lolling on a chaise longue, not a $8-an-hour waitress at a chain restaurant. But that new reality is reflected in the May Vanity Fair, which profiles four of Woods’s “mistresses,” serving up more tawdry details, including Perkins waitress Mindy Lawton’s pathetic admission that the only thing Woods bought her was a Subway chicken-wrap sandwich.

In GQ, Hunter boasted that she was no “gold digger,” noting that she “could have cashed out big” for her story. Edwards had been “helping a little bit,” she says, but she wasn’t being taken care of or paid for the interview. “I have to work,” she said.

Just as the women’s movement transformed marriage into a more egalitarian institution based on love not necessity, it yielded an egalitarian, and thus newly dangerous, mistress who views herself an equal partner—even when it’s apparent she’s been intentionally selected from a lesser orbit, a hallmark of the mistress of yore. And that has resulted in a shift in the historical “double standard that condemns the errant woman more than her male partner in sin,” as Abbott put it.

While writing the book, Abbott observed a new mistress vigilante willing to spill details—for celebrity, for revenge, to stake a legal claim. The power balance has shifted. It’s the adulterer, not the mistress, who’s now seen as the home wrecker; he’s the one who betrayed his vows; he’s the one with everything to lose. Mistresses, on the other hand, have everything to gain, if only fleetingly—reflected in the emerging mistress celebrity complex. Rachel Uchitel’s notoriety in the Woods scandal won her a job on TV show Extra. Ex-prostitute Ashley Dupré, whose dalliance with now-former New York governor Eliot Spitzer resulted in his resignation, scored a gig as love and sex columnist for the New York Post. Sarah Symonds, a Brit who boasted of having a seven-year affair with celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay in 2008, even appeared on Oprah in 2007 shilling her how-to, Having An Affair? A Handbook for the Other Woman, based on her fling with shamed British top Tory and novelist Jeffrey Archer in the late 1990s. Ramsay was pilloried not only for jeopardizing his family-man reputation, but also for being so boneheaded to get involved with a woman famous for making a career, quite literally, of sleeping with other women’s husbands. Symonds represents the new mistress who makes her money post-affair, rather than while in it. But she’s also typical in aspiring to be more than just a casual sex partner. “I was his confidante—more than a mistress,” she said of Ramsay in the Daily Mail. “He even called me his ‘soulmate.’ ” Teary-eyed porn star Joslyn James spoke of her similar connection with Woods at a press conference she convened: “I loved him and he told me he loved me too,” she said.

Once spurned, the modern mistress refuses to hide as she would have 50 years ago. In January, YaVaughnie Wilkins took brazen measures to expose her eight-year relationship with Charles E. Phillips, the co-president of software giant Oracle and an Obama economic adviser, after he reconciled with his wife. The 41-year-old actress and writer bought prime billboard space in New York, Atlanta and San Francisco to plaster a photo of her and the 50-year-old Phillips under the banner “YaVaughnie & Charles” and “You are my soulmate forever—CEP” (Phillips’s initials).

Viewers were directed to a website filled with romantic photos, intimate notes, even a ticket stub to the Obama inauguration. The outlay was estimated at $250,000—a lot of money to prove Wilkins was more than a one-night stand. But it worked. Within the week, the website was yanked and Phillips issued a statement admitting that the two once had a “serious affair.” The final fallout for Phillips remains to be seen: last week he announced he was stepping down from the board at Morgan Stanley, where he met Wilkins when she was an intern.

The fact adulterers don’t foresee such risks makes them appear even more reckless—and out of touch. In February, Kristen Lucas went to the media with sexually charged text messages from Toronto city councillor and Transit Commission chair Adam Giambrone, with whom she’d been having a months-long affair. The 20-year-old university student was angry after finding out Giambrone, who’d just launched a mayoral bid, had lied to her about not having a live-in girlfriend. The 32-year-old politician admitted to an “an inappropriate relationship” with Lucas, whom he’d connected with on Facebook, but insisted it “consisted in public places only.” The next day, realizing he’d been cornered, he apologized, and admitted Lucas wasn’t the only person with whom he’d been unfaithful: “To have misled those around me in this fashion is the worst mistake of my life,” he said, before bowing out of the mayoral race.

Giambrone was slow to figure out that the same technology that enables the adulterous affair and provides much of its illicit frisson, via naughty texts or photos, can also expose it: one of Woods’s bedmates provided 300 text messages as proof of her 31-month affair with him. Another revealed the golfer had desperately demanded she remove her name from her phone so his wife wouldn’t find it, a message the woman saved and broadcast.

Once public, indiscreet texts and photographs subject philanderers to a second wave of online ridicule, as witnessed in the mockery of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford’s heartfelt, cringe-inducing emails to his Argentinean mistress (“I love the curve of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself”) and Giambrone’s juvenile texts, destined to be replayed the next time he runs for office: “No fare increase to ride the Giambrone rocket tonight!” read one.

Even Google CEO Eric Schmidt couldn’t control former mistress Kate Bohner’s online musings, as he discovered when he tried to shut down a blog tied to the journalist’s upcoming “multi-media confessional autobiography” (she called him “Dr. Strangelove” and revealed he gave her a prototype iPhone). Within days the blog was up again with a disclaimer that all characters are “fictional.”

The Internet’s role as the new town square for flogging adulterers might seem strange, given its role abetting infidelity via websites like But it also reflects a new intolerance toward alpha males like Woods and Edwards, who believed it’s still possible to have it both ways: enjoy the benefits of marriage—the support, children, intimacy and public respectability—and still revel in fresh flesh while lying to everyone. Edwards’s desperation to be president was so strong he was tone deaf to the mood of the American public, which is: do what you want to do in your own marriage, but don’t screw with us.

He was also seen to be a class-A creep for the way he treated his terminally ill wife. Couples marry today with the expectation of mutual happiness and best-friend support—the “someone-who-has-my-back” praise Bullock lavished on James in her Academy Award acceptance speech earlier this year. The kind of rampant deception to perpetuate a year- long affair makes a mockery of that trust. Once betrayed, wives no longer can be counted on to stand by their men—as witnessed by the recent marital defections of Elizabeth Edwards and Jenny Sanford. Elin Woods’s absence from the Masters suggests she too has checked out. Bullock may well be next. In January, the actress said this about the Woods scandal: “If I were Elin, man, I would have hit a lot more than she did.” This week, unconfirmed reports claim that the couple has a pre-nup which specifies James will receive no money if the couple splits due to infidelity. Divorce papers have apparently been drawn up.

In a society where marriage is voluntary and casual hookups are easy, long-term commitment has new value—as reflected in the celebration of the Obama marriage. Hence the public shaming of adulterers. “Watch out cheaters,” blared a Philadelphia Daily News headline referring to Wilkins’s billboards. And it’s not only the famous who are at risk. Last month, Abbott, whose latest book is A History of Marriage, received an email from a Canadian woman imploring her to write about the six-year affair she had with a married lawyer, which produced a child; she was willing to provide incriminating photos. The historian declined the assignment. But somewhere somebody’s about to learn it’s never been a riskier time to be a philanderer.


Revenge of the mistress

  1. Golf and marriage are two separate issues. No one can take away what TIGER is to his golf fans.

    As for his marriage, It takes two to make a marriage work. That Tiger has to have affairs with other women begs the question whether his wife is feeding him at home. Their marriage contract suggests she primarily is his trophy wife for the money. He should have saved himself the grief and $$$ and just hired high-class prostitutes.

    • Right but wrong at the same time! No wife is a 'Trophy'.

    • It goes to a person's character, and what the man (or woman) believes is doing the right thing. Everyone has to look at themselves in the mirror in the morning. Going outside of the marriage instead of rationally seeking out the person you married for better or worse when your needs don't feel met is not how to ensure the survival of your marriage. It's self destructive, possibly (bad) attention seeking, and perhaps passive-aggressive.

    • It's easy to point a finger at the wife again. No marriage is smooth, 2 individuals of different sex going through all the different changes ,child raising. career decision etc., marriage carries along with each individual also maturing, or refusal to mature, will be rocky. This is life, live up to it, not turn to the first gold digging slut chasing you for your fame and fortune. Why is the wife left to raise the children, maintain the home and family life while h follows his dreams? What about her needs, dreams and frustration of being alone in a marriage? It's a man's world with women being treated as second rate citizens again.

    • Tiger Woods is a disgrace to his profession and well as a disgrace to his family for his conduct.
      How you could even try to defend his actions is beyond me.
      You obviously don't have any morals yourself or you would not even think this way.

      • Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion. Tiger's personal activities is his and Elin's business. His involvement with Youth and being accountable is what should be questioned. His public image as well — where is his PRs??
        You cannot deny – He is a GREAT golfer – he works very hard at it! His endorsement will come back but more on a realistic way — he is ONLY a human being after all !! No-one is perfect – what his PR thinking??
        It is up to Elin and it is her choice alone as to what to do – not you or I – the public can write all that is wrong but have no control on Elin's actions! To LEAVE or NOT to ???? How very painful, especially when she loves Tiger so!!
        The innocents are always the victims here! not the Mistress or the Sinner – they had their FUN now Pay the PRICE but so say that Mistresses are right and have not consequences — NOW THAT IS WRONG!! each and everyone of these LADIES ???? know that these were married men — so why do it? why demean yourself ? your morals, etc.?
        Disgusted – these marriage-breaking SUCKERS!! They got USED!!! They made their CHOICES!!

      • I totally agree with you Disgusted,also what all the people posting here are forgetting is Tiger chased her when the relationship started not the other way around.

    • Yes he's great at golf.

      You say "that Tiger has to have affairs begs the question whether his wife is feeding him at home"….what an offensive and imbecilic statement. Are all his mistresses not feeding him? He had many at the same time and all while married. He also managed to produce children during this time. This is not the case of a man not being fed!!!

    • Even if she is a trophy wife they had children together. She is a person with feelings. His children and his mother have feelings. He betrayed all of them. His image is fake. But what he does to his family is not. He had his minions paying his girls off so they wouldn't talk. So was that to protect his image so he wouldn't lose his endorsements? Pretty pathetic. He was too busy being self-indulgent to be a mature person.

    • Men are pigs…
      it dosent matter how much you feed them at home, they are still hungry as soon as they leave the house.
      how dare you somehow imply his cheating is somehow her fault. if he didnt like her food, he shoud stop eating it… stop pretending her food is the only food he eats!

  2. The human animal, male or female, is not naturally monogamous. It is society and personal preference that make them such. Men and women have been having sexual relations with each other for all recorded time and before.
    What is sad is the loss of trust experienced by the “offended” party. Wouldn't it be more honest for the offender to just admit that they want out of the relationship to explore other options or to ask for permission to explore other options while remaining the devoted husband/wife to the preferred partner and father/mother of the children? Why break up the family for a little extramarital sex?

    • Actually, there is an interesting study into human genetics that uses the ratio of male/female contributions to the genetic pool to show just how monogamous we inherently are across the history of our genetic development. The ratio is on the order of 1.2/1, the result suggesting that we are inherently mostly monogamous. If nothing else, it illustrates that we do not have a particularly good understanding of whether we are "naturally monogamous"

      • I have read that about 7% of mammals are monogamous, which suggests that amongst mammals, polyamory is the more natural behavior, not monogamy. You could also say that amongst mammals, monogamy is the sexually deviant behavior and polyamory is the sexually normal behavior.
        The other reason I find this interesting is the fact that you cannot repeat this in public. If any of these "unfaithful" men repeated this fact in public, they would be a target, much like homosexuals were when they wanted acceptance.
        The other view that nobody wants to talk about is the one of the individual that is forcibly involved in an involuntary abstinent monogamous relationship.
        Being forced into an abstinent monogamous relationship is usually what leads to infidelity, so why are we shaming the symptom and not the cause of the symptom? Why is it acceptable to force monogamy and abstinence onto somebody and then destroy them when they crack?

  3. pll ……you kill me!

    OK put the shoe on the other foot. Would you forgive your wife for "a little extramarital sex?" Bet not!

    To fall back on the male animal is incapable of being monogamous, is just bunk! If you can't then don't get married and give "your word" that you will always be honest and faithful.

    Remember when someone's word was their bond.
    I guess that isn't part of being a male animal anymore either.

  4. If you involve yourself in a relationship with a married man/woman there should be consequences for you as well. Of course, in today's society if you play the victim card well enough you are rewarded with jobs, money for dishing the dirt and fame. I find that disgusting. It doesn't say much for the public. A marriage is sacred but as it has been said before we are not meant for monogamy not matter how hard we try. Kudos to those who make their marriage "work" and don't stray but what a person does in the bedroom is his/hers and the spouse's business. It may have made Tiger a lousy husband but doesn't necessarily make him a bad person. I felt he owed Elin the apology not to us or any of the classy women he slept with.

    • There were plenty of readily discernable consequences for Woods, and Jesse James and kitchen guy. I wouldn't confuse more fame with more notoriety. Spinning affairs into more money is an ugly down side that exists, but it's not money well gained, imo.

  5. Being Accountable – the women that Tiger had the affairs with are no better than he is.
    Just because he is a good golfer does not make him a good role model for his younger fans.

  6. 4th jet, I agree with PLL's summation. He'd be free to agree or disagree if his wife proposed she wanted some free play time. Neither man or woman are necessarily meant to be monogamous. This society would be a lot better off if they recognized sex for what it is…sex. Marriage and all that is a different ball game.
    I understand that in biblical times, adulterous women were stoned. Now we're casting stones and aspersions at men.
    What folly!

    • Sex is a way to procreate. And has been made to seem like some great recreational activity by those who have far too much time & money.
      Too bad that Tiger risked his wife's health by his behaviour.
      Even animals limit their activity to when the females are in heat.
      Why did he get married in the first place if he felt he had to go out & prove to himself that he was man enough to bag all these " bad girls". Surley he must have known that this is not appropriate behaviour for a married man. And there are couples who do remain monagomous to each other. After a while, if you have enough good sex – you realize what it is & what it's for, and the passionate stuff sort of fizzles out. Trying to rekindle those feelings isn't going to stop time from making you old, & take precious time away from developing the entire personality before a person dies.

  7. Tiger has acknowledged his infidelities was wrong and apologized to the public and to his family and I accept his apology!
    I think it truly takes a lot of courage for Tiger to come clean and come forth and I speak from experience. My husband did the same. If he truly wants to make changes in his life and his family is important to him, he will want to make it work. I love my husband and he wanted his family and friends back and he was genuinely and totally committed to making our lives a family again. It takes time to heal what has happened because he has to earn that trust back and respect. My husband earned the trust and respect back, especially from my mother :) We are entering our 30 + years of being together and life is good! I think for me this experience has made our relationship stronger and our love for each other has reached a total different level. All the best Tiger and I hope you and your family flourishes along side of you!

    • i don't belive his "talk" of being sorry for his action but do believe he is sorry he was caught. He is out there becouse of GREED . i am disappointed in the PGA golfers who go along with his garbage and think it is becouse of the money he brings to the Tour.Is it good PR orders from the head office of the PGA?

      Life is full of temptations and a mature adult knows the consequences of accepting them.

  8. 'He should have saved himself the grief and $$$ and just hired high-class prostitutes.'

    Isn't that precisely what he's been doing? My question is what constitutes 'high-class' in the business of prostitution? Do they pay taxes? Are they their own managers, or do they work with an agency or pimp? Are they 'high-class' because they charge more for their services than your every-day variety of street-corner hooker? Is it because they live in fancier digs, wear more expensive clothes, and get fluffed and buffed at the spa on nearly a daily basis. Do they have a standing appointment with a recommended cosmetic surgeon for all the tweaking and plumping?

    I understand these women cost him plenty. So he was spending lots of $$$. Their 'exotic' services certainly don't come cheap. As well, he has certainly ended up in a hornet's nest full of grief, wouldn't you say? So how was this a solution for him?

  9. I agree – Golf and Marriage are 2 separate issues.

    He is the greatest golfer and athlete ever!

    He's not that good at marriage – obviously! He needs to work out his issues with his wife. It's not a public matter. So to all the 'Monday Morning Quarterbacks' ….Shut the F up & look in the mirror and acknowledge your own sins…we all are guilty whether we know it or not!

    • Brian your a smart man! It's just not only the Monday morning quarterbacks , it's a message to all of us!

    • I looked in the mirror and all I saw was a handsome dude

    • "Greatest athlete ever!"

      You can't be serious. LMFAO.

  10. Tiger Woods said he is deeply regretting the hurt and damage he has caused his wife and children with his selfish, reckless and sinful behavior. It has been reported also that Tiger has pleaded and begged Elin not to leave him. Although, Tiger said he is making amendments, I think it may be too late for Tiger to save his marriage and family. If Tiger looses Elin and the children, he may regret it for the rest of his life because a family is a true treasure. The trust, love and respect of your dear ones are priceless. I hope that whatever Elin decides to do work the best for her and her precious children.

  11. There's Tiger the golfer.
    There's Tiger the celebrity, a two-edged sword of 1) adulation and money gusher through endorsements that can turn to 2) contempt overnight.
    There's Tiger the private man.

    He used his family to burnish his celebrity and played the part of devoted husband and father. That turned out to be a lie and that's why he's justifiably getting spanked by some of the public who are not golf admirers so much as celebrity followers.

    Not everyone can compartmentalize and continue to enjoy watching Tiger golf with the same relish. When I know someone is a person of low morals I don't enjoy watching them do anything anymore. Michael Vick, Mike Tyson, even if they're still best at what they do, they're permanently tainted but that's just me.

    • Minaka I like golf and I follow the PGA. I respect Tiger as a golfer because he is good and no one can deny that. I however have never seen him as a role model. He has a nasty streak which is evident when he is doing poorly. Throwing clubs and swearing in disgust because you've hit a poor shot is poor sportmanship and not something a person who can be called a role model does. Becausee of this I've never enjoyed watching Tiger.

      I don't know if any studies have been done but I think cheaters are people with narrcistic personalities. They don;t care whom they hurt or what damage they inflict on those they say they care about. They only care that their needs are being meet.

      Tiger could learn alot from Phil Mickelson about how a real husband treats his wife and family for better or for worse.

  12. What matters most …more than what kind of golfer or cook or politician you are is what kind of person you are. That's why people care because we don't want to see someone who doesn't have respect for their partner or children, someone who is a selfish, lying creep who treats not only all of these women they are sleeping with like crap but their family and wives, that they claim to love, like crap – we don't want to see that kind of person succeed or be rewarded in life – no matter how well they swing a stick to hit a ball.

  13. Yes, folks…this is what is touted as "important news" today. Let's not worry that our money is based on the same "high-grade air" the US dollar is. Let's not worry that if the US economy fails, that Canada's economy–tied very strongly to theirs–will also suffer tremendously when that happens.

    As long as we continue to ignore what's truly important to our lives, health and survival, the longer will will have to wait before we can restore things to what they actually should be.

    As far as I see it, whatever Tiger Woods–or anyone else for that matter–does in their private lives, has absolutely no effect on my personal life, nor should it, so it's not only none of my business, it's also none of my concern. Let's stop concentrating on these stories meant to distract us from important issues like the wilfull destruction of the Great Lakes (See for more information) and get our country, and ourselves, back on the right track.

    Tiger Woods isn't even a Canadian…he doesn't deserve our attention with all of the threats we currently face from within our own borders, by our own elected officials!

    • I couldn't agree with you more. If I want moral advice I'll ask a Rabi, not a golfer. The world is now filled with twittering twits, who know nothing, have never read anything and think the most important thing in the world is what some Hollywood bimbo is doing or wearing. Their main choice of communication is apt, given that they could tell you everything they know in 140 characters. Cheers.

  14. The way Society seems to be going these days. Perhaps marriage should be changed to a 5 year license, renewed if both partners agree to it, (A good excuse to have a party). I'm not saying that people have to stay together for the whole 5 years, but they can't remarry in that time.
    Eliminate Divorce and Divorce Lawyers.

    • In Canada, do you need to carry a license to be this stupid or is it just one of your many freedoms?

      • In your responses, You've proved yourself to be a Loser, an Idiot, a Liar, now a Hypocrite. You're on a roll Elbert, I got to give you that. LOL.

        I thought you believed in Free Speech, I guess that means only Free Speech that agrees with your opinions.

  15. golf isnt even a sport

  16. This is a good article Ms. Kingston. It is good to see the difference, in the last 50 years, in the balance of power between men and their mistresses; especially men who flaunt their power.

    It would have been good if you had tied into this article Silvio Berlusconi's current exemption from much of the repercussions of his philanderings. He's in his third term and still enjoys a fairly high popularity rating (nearly 50%). I guess owning Italy's public media helps there.

  17. Another flaw with the claims of this article is the misleading idea that men in the past were not punished for infidelity, while all the blame was layed on the mistress. This is just not true, and if men did weasel out of blame, it was only because the had the prestige, wealth, and status to buy their way out. And what about the responsibility of ALL the players today? Are we to suddenly ignore the fact that these women had a part to play in persuading and enticing these men into infidelity? Are they not culpable at all? If you think not, then I'm afraid I must call cattle patties on that. We don't have to put a scarlet letter on them, but we hardly should vindicate them either.

  18. Is this article a joke? What kind of flagrant, old school confidence boosting is this? When David Letterman was caught messing around, he explicitly stated that he did on his show, and he got applause, and he still has a top rated show. Calls to impeach Mark Sanford were dismissed. Tiger Williams is back on the greens, no doubt soon to be sponsered by numerous interests once again. That guy Sandra Bullock was with–well, frankly who cares about that waste (Gee Sandra you sure can pick him). If concern for infidelity is a kind of upside down u curve then I would say if anything our culture is beginning ot slide down the other side of that U (Clinton's impeachment perhaps being the zenith of outrage for infidelity)

  19. Btw Sandra, nevermind the "Bollocks" about taking a baseball bat and going at your significant other repeadedly–that's called DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, and what we're constantly told is there is no excuse for domestic violence, not even infidelity. So I suggest you watch it yourself Sandra, and drop the foolish, violent, macha talk.