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Teen who posted anti-bullying YouTube video kills herself


VANCOUVER – There was an outpouring of condolences on social media after the death of a British Columbia teenager who last month posted a gut-wrenching video to YouTube of her treatment at the hands of relentless bullies.

Amanda Todd, 15, posted a haunting, black-and-white, nine-minute video on Sept. 7 in which she doesn’t speak, but holds up a series of white pieces of paper with brief sentences in black marker.

On the papers, the teen explains that as a Grade 7 student, she was lured by an unidentified male to expose her breasts via webcam.

One year later, Todd said she got a message from him on Facebook, though she didn’t know how he knew her name or where to find her.

Todd’s notes said the man ordered her to “put on a show for me,” or he would send around the webcam pictures. Todd said he knew her address, her school, her friends and her family.

She said she was later alerted by police that he had followed through with the threat.

“I then got really sick,” she wrote.

She noted she was plunged into anxiety, major depression, drugs and alcohol. But the bullying didn’t stop. She said the man created a Facebook page with a list of her friends and school.

“My boobs were his profile picture,” she wrote.

“I can never get that photo back. It’s out there forever.”

Todd wrote that she eventually changed schools and things were better for a while. But she said an encounter with another girl’s boyfriend started the bullying again, this time worse. It escalated into a physical attack in which she said she was beaten and left in a ditch until her father found her.

She said she tried to kill herself twice, including once by drinking bleach, and constantly cut herself.

The video ends with her note: “I have nobody. I need someone.”

Beneath the video, though, Todd posted a note saying she produced it not for attention, but “to be an inspiration and to show that I can be strong.”

“Everyone’s future will be bright one day, you just gotta pull through. I’m still here, aren’t I?”

Coquitlam RCMP would only confirm a teenager had died in her home and the circumstances were not suspicious. There was widespread talk on social media of it being a case of suicide, but there was no immediate confirmation from authorities.

Premier Christy Clark posted her video Thursday. In the grainy production, Clark said she had just heard about the death and wanted to pass on condolences.

“No one deserves to be bullied. No one earns it, no one asks for it, it isn’t a right of passage. Bullying has to stop. Every child, everyone needs to be able to feel safe at school.

“When we send our kids to school we need to know that they’re going to come home safe.”

Shock and sadness, but also anger, poured out on a Facebook page devoted to Todd.

“This is really sad,” read one post written by someone identified as Taylor Sjostrand.

“It was painful to see the kids who made fun of her write on her Facebook ‘RIP, you will be missed, we loved you.’ Why would you say that when YOU’RE the reason she’s gone. They have no remorse, let alone any idea what they did. ”

Another post, by someone writing as Nathan Mullin, noted the hypocrisy in the outpouring for Todd in death when there appeared to be little help for her in life.

“Where was all this support when she was suffering?” he wrote.

“I find it sad and disgusting that people care now that it is too late. It bothers me to no end when someone ends their life because of reasons like this and everyone says ‘Oh she was such a nice girl, so pretty and kind’ Well, where was everyone with the kind words when she needed help? Breaks my heart. By watching the video, all she seemed to want was someone to love and accept her.”

Cheryl Quinton, communications manager for the Coquitlam School District, confirmed Todd was a Grade 10 student at a small school in the area. Teachers were aware of the video and help was being provided, she said.

“Amanda was well-connected with the students and staff at that school,” Quinton said.

“Whenever there is a student death, our critical incident team. . . goes to the site and that was the case this morning. They’re helping staff and students through their grief and shock. We’ll provide counselling services there as long as is necessary.”

Irena Pochop is the communications manager for the Maple Ridge and Pitt Meadows school district, east of Vancouver. She confirmed that Todd had been a student in the district, but had transferred to another school earlier this year.

When asked if the district knew whether Todd had been bullied, she said “school and community supports were in place” and that officials were informed of the girl’s death this morning.

“In a case where we are informed about a case of bullying, we take immediate action, and the process is very thorough. We liaise with the RCMP in some cases, we talk to parents, we offer counselling services, we set up a safety plan for the child. It’s a very significant process.”

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    • Hopefully you’ll be the next to go then.

      To everyone else, for I will not respond further to this pathetic excuse for a human being, I for one would like to offer condolences to the family. I wish I could have been there for her. I have a daughter and I am constantly worried that the leaches of the world (like Blake), will try to harm her because they have no other way to validate their own sorry existence. They have no ability and nothing to offer, so they try to show how important they are by bringing down someone better than themselves.

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        • you are a dead inside idiot please get counseling for you are in need of some honest to goodness help

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          • Get help, you sound like the type who just may do something self-harmful like that yourself.

    • Oh why oh why do I respond to trolls? Oh well, here goes (and those who’ve read your other posts will know this): thanks for demonstrating that the defining trait of a conservative is lack of empathy.

      • Why oh why do you think this fellow is a conservative, political troll?

      • This guy represents defining traits for Conservatives in the same way that Al-Qaeda represents defining traits for Muslims.

        • I am an Englishman no matter where I go in the world.

          At home in England, the only purpose of the Labour party is to attempt lifting a turd by the clean end.

          The only purpose of Liberal Democrats is to try to convince everyone they can lift the other clean end.

          The only purpose of Cameron’s coalition is to hope the previous two are successful while their own hands stay clean.

          UKIP is all about getting out a shovel, cleaning up the yard and getting our hands dirty.

    • You are a psychopath and an idiot. On behalf of sane, decent people everywhere, please go away.

      • Your morals, your code, it’s a bad joke dropped at the first sign of trouble… You’re only as good as the world allows you to be.

        When the chips are down, you “civilized” people will eat each other.

        You see, I’m not a monster, I’m just ahead of the curve.

        You have all these rules and you think they’ll “save” you, when the only sensible way to live in this world is without rules.

        I already told you, I’m not here to “save” anybody. I’m like a dog chasing cars, I wouldn’t know what to do with one if I caught it…

        You’re a schemer, a schemer trying to control your little world… I’m not a schemer, I try to show you schemers how pathetic your attempts to control things really are.

        I introduce a little anarchy, upset the established order and everything becomes chaos.

        I’m an agent of chaos… And you know the thing about chaos?

        It’s fair…

        • so idiodic that you cant come up with some depressing dribble on your own you have to copy from a character in a Batman movie? Nice…get a brain and a heart…dink.

          • If I were to tell the press millions of Americans would be blown up by an Iranian nut job or that Democrats have stolen their entire life savings with bailouts and Obamacare, nobody panics because it is all part of the plan…

            But if I say a few homosexuals in San Francisco are upset over their little wee wees, why, everyone just loses their minds!


            A. Joker