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Why it’s OK to hate Anne Hathaway (and anyone else you want)

Emma Teitel explains we need to stop hating on other women for hating on other women


 

Anti-Hathaway is as pervasive as Kimye’s unborn child on the Internet this week. A lot of people don’t like the Oscar-winning actress, and a lot of those people, are, apparently women.

Enter Anne Hathaway’s stalwart defenders—also women—some of whom hate her just the same. New York Magazine’s Ann Friedman, for example, is confused about her anti-Hathawayism because the actress “seems smart and self-possessed, savvy and successful.”

“Hathaway and I would probably get along swimmingly,” she writes. “She’s a spokesperson for Eve Ensler’s anti-violence organization, One Billion Rising. And have you seen the clip of her shutting down Matt Lauer’s creepy questions about her upskirt moment with a measured response about the commodification of female sexuality? It is on point. Yet she leaves me cold.”

Katey Rich, writing for cinemablend.com, believes cold feelings for Hathaway are unwarranted and offensive. In “Why Hating Anne Hathaway is Boring And Already Passe,” she writes, “the reasons to hate Anne Hathaway are at best weak, and at worst sexist.”

“Why are we hating a girl from being talented and not being humble enough about it? Why are we letting our resentment of that one annoying theater star girl from high school be assigned to a famous person we do not know at all?”

And here’s Lena Dunham, tweeting after the Oscars:

“Ladies, Anne Hathaway is a feminist and she has amazing teeth. Let’s save our bad attitudes for the ones who aren’t advancing the cause.”

Ergo, in the name of solidarity, women must stop hating on Anne Hathaway because she is a woman, a nice one who gives to charities that support other women.

This is, quite plainly, the human rights issue of our time.

Please forgive me, then, while I stand on the wrong side of history. It’s OK to hate Anne Hathaway. More specifically, it’s OK to be a woman and hate Anne Hathaway—or anyone you please.

If, let’s say, Hathaway was one of two women in the entertainment industry—and the public’s antipathy toward her was clearly gender specific, then solidarity would be in order. I’d be lauding her rehearsed acceptance speeches to the moon. But she’s not. She’s one of hundreds of A-list female celebrities who face media scrutiny, and she is maybe one of five (Lindsay Lohan comes to mind) who bears the brunt of most of it. And if we do hate her because she is a successful woman, how then do you explain Jennifer Lawrence? Or Meryl Streep? Or the fact we like almost everyone else. Lately it’s been clear that women, for one reason, just don’t like Anne Hathaway. It’s not veiled sexism, or some kind of pathology. It’s simple, really.

People: either you like them or you don’t.

What is sexist in this scenario is the notion that all women must look out for one another at the peril of everything else: ideas, common interests, a profound dislike for musical theatre.

Women don’t need to stop hating on Anne Hathaway. They need to stop hating on other women for hating on other women.

Eve Ensler is a Jewish woman. So am I. Is it traitorous to say I don’t like The Vagina Monologues? Judith Butler is Jewish, female and gay. So am I. Does that bad-luck trifecta make us instant friends? No. Maybe once it did, but thankfully society has progressed to a point at which we don’t have to be friends because we both have vaginas. Equality eliminates the need for solidarity and enables you to hate your own kind for whatever reason: good teeth, bad teeth, feminist or otherwise.

Haters of Anne Hathaway, hate on.


 
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Why it’s OK to hate Anne Hathaway (and anyone else you want)

  1. Where are we going….and why are we in this handbasket?

  2. are you serious? What’s the point of preaching hate? No its NOT okay to hate anyone you want. Hate should be last resort feeling. To openly embrace such a horrid feeling is a sign that clearly we’re going somewhere wrong in society. I could careless for Anne Hathaway one or the other, but I feel sorry that you all are bullying her. Your article is essentially saying it’s okay to BULLY who ever you want.

    • No she isn’t and you missed her point.

    • Exactly. This is bullying at its worst, i.e. completely public and being construed as being okay. It’s sick really.

  3. She is atrctive, smart, talented and alround better of than most and i think that is fantastic.

    but i still dont like here, if i had more energy i might even be bothered to H here. but i have better things to do but i suport your right to say, think and feel what you

    want

  4. You are right in saying you either like or don’t like people, but what possible good can come from condoning and encouraging people to ‘hate’? She is a person. A REAL person. If you don’t like her, don’t go see her movies, but you’re just being a bully by titling this article ‘why it’s ok to hate Ann Hathaway’. Shame on you.

  5. This article is disgusting.

  6. Simply a reflection of our times – people think they can be as rude as they want, as vicious as they want. You can hate someone for no reason at all, even if you have never met the person. You can hate a group even if you’ve never met a member of the group. Cyberbullying is fun. What next, a defense of David Ahenakew?

    • An excellent point. We should be advocating for a return of decorum, not debasing our culture to the point where its okay to trash a perfectly nice person in the most public and disgraceful manner for absolutely no reason at all.

  7. You’re advocating hate?

    Oh, it’s meant in a light-hearted way; it’s okay then. Except for those who take it literally.

    Are all gay Jewish women feminists? Just wondering.

    • haha good point – are all gay jewish feminists hateful??

  8. Sounds like a Mean Girls virus has infested cyberspace. Squawking little birds in twitterdom gots to get their cluck on…

  9. Great article. As a strong, educated female I get sick of hearing I HAVE to like someone just because they are female. I dislike people because of their characteristics, nothing to do with gender. Hate is an ugly word, but anyone who takes your article for advocating “hate” in the destructive sense is silly.

    • Of course its advocating hate. It does so by definition.

      She’s telling the people calling the haters to account that they should shut up, when the hypocrisy of doing so is blantantly clear.

      If it’s okay to hate, then it’s okay to hate hate. You can’t have it one way and not the other.

      So the ultimate effect is to say hating others is good and calling them to account is bad.

      How does that not advocate hate?

  10. I find this article offensive. The journalist is nothing better than a high school bully. Shame on Emma Teitel for writing such hateful comments. Your a good role model Emma (not).

    • Well I wouldn’t go quite that far, (i.e. the she’s a bully part) since she probably didn’t come up with the topic in isolation, but in a staff discussion. In fact the perspective is probably intentional in the sense of trying to find a new “angle” on the already far over-blown topic.

      That said, I am disappointed that she would defend the haters but slam the haters of the haters. But then I’ve always had a big problem with obvious hypocrisy.

  11. Considering what you’ve written about her here, I think the reason people are getting down on the haters is because it’s not actually hate. It’s simply jealousy.

    Pathetic, miserable jealousy.

  12. Not being a 14 year old girl, I did not enjoy this article.

  13. We’re not yet equal. The end.

  14. Naturally I completely disagree.

    Yes, “haters gonna hate” and all that, but let’s not pretend its okay when there’s an obvious lack of justification.

    Just as people may have the “right” to hate, others have a “right” to get on their case about it when it’s so lacking in substantiation.

    I’m surprised you missed the obvious irony of your own statment in fact. After all, I could extend that as well and say let’s not hate on the haters of haters etc etc etc and make no more of a point than was made here.

    In my opinion we should save our collective hate for those who actually cross important boundaries of some sort. Otherwise, much like we see in politics, we end up letting the real jerks off easier by give them lots of “noise” to hide behind.

    But then again, its hard to ascribe values to a culture of debating pop culture with such vehemence that they actually take it seriously. LOL

  15. Teitel often writes about people who dislike homosexuality and argues that gays are people too, which I agree with, and then writes this asinine post about how it’s ok for people to randomly hate others as long as Teitel hates them as well.

    Teitel’s mom should have taught her that we should not hate anyone except Hitler types.’Do as I say, not as I do’ is not a persuasive argument.

  16. Wow, what an excellent article! I feel empowered as a woman after reading this. Thank you Emma Teitel, for standing up for Anne Hatha-haters across the globe!!!!! ^_^

  17. The problem most people have with the hatred toward this woman is that it feels so arbitrary; if she acted in a way that was consistently cruel and callous, it might feel like it has some basis. The reason many women are uncomfortable with this, beyond simple empathy, is that they could very well see themselves as the same seemingly random target – they try and do their best, and yet they are despised – why?

    The writer cites the counter-example of Meryl Streep, yet Sasha Weiss already deals with this, “In Defense of the Happy Girl” – women of a certain age, when they become a little more sexually non-threatening, suddenly become likeable. And this does give many pause; if you’re young, attractive, hard-working, just doing your darndest, get ready to have a brick thrown at you.

    On the one hand Hathaway is treated as a frivolous figure – her victimhood a ridiculous “human rights issue of our time” – and yet, somehow, not frivolous enough not to be hated; hate, an emotion usually provoked by tyrants and pedophiles, is provoked by an actress. That no hatred should ever be doubted, is a strange one to be given full support: if someone hates Barack Obama, Morgan Freeman, or Sidney Poitier because they’re snooty, is that a passion which should receive no doubt or scrutiny, or should these haters be encouraged to hate away?

  18. It’s OK to hate Anne Hathaway. More specifically, it’s OK to be a woman and hate Anne Hathaway—or anyone you please…People: either you like them or you don’t…What is sexist in this scenario is the notion that all women must look out for one another at the peril of everything else: ideas, common interests, a profound dislike for musical theatre. Women don’t need to stop hating on Anne Hathaway. They need to stop hating on other women for hating on other women.

    Wow. This is the first thing of yours I’ve ever read that I’ve almost completely agreed with (which probably means it will be the last, but oh well). More like this please.

    One small quibble. Lena Dunham was indeed trying to tone down the Hathaway hate because they share the same “cause”; but it has nothing to do with charities, it was that Anne Hathaway is, like Dunham, a hard-core liberal. Lena Dunham was saying to save your hate for the Sarah Palins and Michelle Malkins of the world.

    Other than that, nice job

  19. The worst thing about this article is that it actually makes no rational argument. Macleans continues to wallow in the most base non-journalism, with intentionally shocking and misleading headlines to attempt to attract eyeballs. Shame.

  20. I don’t usually comment of websites because, let’s be realistic, no one cares about comments… but this time I feel like writing this:
    you can hate your neighbour, you can hate your collegue, you can hate your inlaws, that I get… because you actually KNOW them!
    with hathaway, you like the fantasy of hating her as if you were acquainted and she pisses you off each time you have lunch with her… but that’s the thing with you celebrity bloggers/sunday journalists: you never did meet her, you never will, you’re not a celebrity although you obviously desperately aspire to.
    I’ve seen many many many (way too many) articles about that hate story lately, so please, get a real job, stop blogging, mind your own life (seriously, you need to get one) and simply let the rest of us enjoy the actors performances in movies

    • Exactly! Pure envy. This is not journalism- this is parasitic smut posing as neotough smart girl blogging, but there is nothing intelligent, insightful or even entertaining here at all. . . what useless garbage. Shallow as a mud puddle and about as meaningful.

  21. I think the main issue with hating on Anne Hathaway is that it is so public. It is not just simply saying privately that you do not like the woman, but rather that it is a high point in the news (case in point you’re even righting about it) that is the problem. I mean not everyone likes Alicia Keys (personally I love her), but you do not see the hate being so publicly acknowledge. The main problem is that it has gone from not liking the woman to publicly bullying her. That’s not cool.

  22. Who is Anne Hathaway? I’m not Jewish but I am a feminist.

  23. For shame! For Emma to write such an artlcle supporting hate in any form and shame on Maclean’s for publishing it. Are you both pleased that the majority of people are distressed enough to comment on this horrible message “hate on”? Is this what your journalism has resorted to? Engage the reader at any cost? Encouraging and legitimizing the hating of an individual that you don’t even know and pasing it off as journalism? Are you all crazy?

  24. Geez, I hated her without know it was cool. “Hate” is not the right word, come to think of it. . I just don’t think she’s a talented actress, and that the parts she has played have been on the “lite” side.

  25. it is bullying pure and simple who is next on your hit list you should apoligise

  26. Hi Emma Teitel;

    As a long time subscriber to MacLean’s I’ve had the jury out on you as a
    credible columnist since you’ve joined Maclean’s this past year.

    Both you and your editor need a good ‘talkin’ to’ on presenting this type of
    article. As one letter writer (GFMD) mentions “Not being a 14 year old
    girl, I did not enjoy this article”.

    It is what it is Emma; don’t blow your chances with articles that sound so juvenile.

    Even a mild apology in your next piece might be worth considering–the ‘hate’ word
    should not be used so loosely especially in Canada’s national magazine.

  27. ask me if I care. Who is Hathaway anyway?

  28. I think most of those who seem to have a “hate-on” for this column have missed the point. I could be wrong, but I think Emma is trying to say this is a “first-world” problem, i.e. rather irrelevant in the greater scheme of things. If you have the time to hate someone you don’t know and spend time Tweeting it, or whatever, then have too much time on your hands; you truly don’t have a life; and are in dire need of getting one. Perhaps you could spend some of this time volunteering or just doing something nice for someone.

  29. For those of you who think this is “bullying at its worst”… you don’t have a bloody clue, do you? Use some critical thinking here, people, and quit responding with knee-jerk reactions and manufactured indignity. I hope you are “trolls”, for if you are not, and you are, indeed, a reflection of your postings… we’re in trouble as a thoughtful society.

  30. Isn’t it more a question that “opinions” have been given a much more direct and higher forum in recent years? The internet now gives social gossip to the masses.
    Isn’t there some more pressing journalism to be ventured than parlaying the daily into a water cooler belonging beat down?

  31. If you don’t care for her work, that’s one thing. If you can seriously utter ‘I hate her’ and you’ve not even met her, consider seeing a psychiatrist. Being a woman is no excuse to be cavalier with the concept of hate and I promise you your hatred is doing more harm to yourself than anyone else. And Emma, take a tip from Ms. Hathaway and stop wasting your talent, please.

  32. I am not sure the real point of this ‘article’ but it is not okay to use OK even when texting! If your life is in danger and those extra two letters might be the difference between life and death then maybe, and only then, be acceptable!

  33. I am really sorry to have read this article – not worth the download let alone reading – kept reading to find ONE redeeming aspect but alas ends up as just another feeble and irrelevent assertion of your personal sexuality. equally boring.

  34. The Supreme Court has ruled it is naughty to hate especially in print. Are the cops knocking at your door yet? Jewish, female and gay cops of course.

  35. “Women don’t need to stop hating on Anne Hathaway. They need to stop hating on other women for hating on other women.”

    Translation: Anne Hathaway isn’t the victim, the gossip columnists are! Just because we’re bullies doesn’t give you the right to bully us!

    It’s really telling how you immediately rush to high school when explaining your hate for Anne Hathaway. “She reminds me of those drama kids, ew.” Great. Speaking of high school, what do you remind yourself of?

    Spoiler: YOU’RE the one in high school, not her. And you haven’t changed a bit. Why else would you become a gossip columnist?

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