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The End | Htoo K’Bru Paw | 2000-2011

She was born in a Thai refugee camp after her family escaped from Burma, and survived some of the worst hospitals in the world


 
The End | Htoo K'Bru Paw | 2000-2011

Illustration by Marian Bantjes

Htoo K’Bru Paw—”Bright Flower”—was born on March 19, 2000, at Mae Rama Luang refugee camp in western Thailand. Htoo, pronounced “Too,” was one of 13 children born to Say Ler Moo and Poe Gay, rice farmers from Burma’s persecuted Karen minority. Her parents had fled Burma just before Htoo’s birth. For years, the family had been on the run in the jungle, surviving on rice broth and bamboo shoots, never speaking above a whisper, hiding from the military, who’d razed their village, and slaughtered their relatives.

Although Mae Rama was a dirty, tightly packed refugee camp with no electricity or plumbing, it was paradise, says Poe Gay. The family was safe at last. They lived in a one-room bamboo hut, two metres above the ground. Sometimes, the bamboo would rot and you’d fall through the floor, Poe Wah, Htoo’s eldest brother, explains—far better, he adds with a smile, than falling into the outhouse. They ate rice, though there was never enough. Over time, Poe Gay acquired eight chickens, which she sold to supplement their rice rations; it was the first time she had ever seen money. The kids had no shoes, and were often sick. At any given time, 40 per cent of the camp’s children were ill with malaria, TB, or chronic diarrhea. Death was all around them.

Htoo’s world ended at the grey fence surrounding the camp. She didn’t have any toys: her prized possession was a collection of stones she’d amassed over the years. School, her great love, was an infrequent luxury. Once, she misplaced a textbook, and was inconsolable. Htoo, wise and funny and a whiz with her younger siblings, always kept the family laughing and happy. That was her role, her brother explains. She was their warm soul.

When Htoo was eight, Canada offered to take the family in. Each underwent medical testing. That’s when Htoo’s parents learned she had thalassemia, a genetic blood disease. She’d worked so hard caring for everyone, no one had realized she herself had been hurting. She immediately began blood transfusions. The camp hospital was grotesque. The sick were squeezed into one room, some screaming in pain. Drips were hooked to rotting thatched walls. Infections were constant. Once, Htoo awoke to find the woman lying next to her had died in her sleep. But soon, she would leave all this behind.

The journey to the Bangkok airport took five days. The only food Htoo’s parents could afford for the trip was a bag of chips. Inside, there were 12 chips: one for each child. On June 27, 2008, Htoo’s family landed in Langley, B.C., with no English, or any experience with the world outside of a refugee camp. Htoo entered Grade 4 at Nicomekl Elementary. Every afternoon, she and her sisters studied together, memorizing vocabulary lists, grammar rules and reciting Scripture. No one worked harder than Htoo, who always placed first at the Karen Heritage School, where she took weekend classes.

She learned to skate and play soccer, and flourished. Her health improved so much that doctors suggested a bone marrow transplant to cure her, thus ending monthly blood transfusions and visits to hospital. Poe Wah, it turned out, was a perfect match, and in June, Htoo underwent surgery.

By mid-July, she’d regained her strength, and doctors were set to release her when she caught an infection. By August, she was near death, but fought it and won. But constant infections meant her siblings couldn’t visit. Nurses hooked up a webcam; back in Langley, her family scrambled to borrow a matching set-up. The day the cameras went live, Htoo’s siblings rushed to take turns speaking to their favourite sister. As the novelty wore off, they resumed their routines. But no one turned off the camera. For hours, Htoo sat hugging the laptop to her chest, listening as her sisters recited their vocabulary lists and her brothers chattered away.

At Christmastime, she took a turn for the worse, and in January was admitted to the ICU. Htoo, wise beyond her years, understood how sick she really was. Only at the very end did she finally allow herself to cry. “I just want to see my brothers and sisters,” she told her dad, her voice barely a whisper. “I don’t want to die yet.” But she just didn’t have any fight left. Her family gathered round her bed; when Htoo could no longer open her eyes, she would squeeze her siblings’ hands. On Feb. 3, Htoo, who’d survived infection and disease in some of the ugliest hospitals in the world, died in Canada, of an infection, at one of the world’s best. She was 11 years old.


 
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  1. Part 1:

    My partner and I have been extremely lucky to get to know the family of Htoo Htoo. They are kind, honest and friendly. They have been attending our church for a few years now. I went to visit Htoo's Htoo's older sister Paw Bo in the hospital a few years back with another church friend and as she had just had surgery and was not awake we talked with the dad Sayler Moo. He is a wonderful father and devoted to his family. When Htoo Htoo was in the hospital our pastor asked in our bulletin if people could drive some of the sisters back and forth to Children's Hospital in Vancouver. The doctors felt that Htoo Htoo was missing them desperately. We started in October of 2010 taking different members of the family every Wed. evening. They are polite, gracious and thankful. However, it is us (Dale and I) that are thankful that we have gotten to know them. On the drive we would practice English and I would ask them questions about geography, spelling etc. They loved it. I was so amazed at how much they knew. They love Canada! And they love hockey!

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  2. I could go on forever about this family. I am honoured that they have included us in their journey with Htoo Htoo. We were invited to the hospital on the last night of Htoo Htoo's life. Mom and Dad were so caring with her and the other children. They encouraged us to hold Htoo Htoo's hand and speak with her. I was amazed at the strength of both of them. We all wore masks in the room so what we could see was eyes. Eyes that wore grief, exhaustion but most of all love. Love for their daughter who had such a short life.

  3. Part 1:

    My partner and I have been extremely lucky to get to know the family of Htoo Htoo. They are kind, honest and friendly. They have been attending our church for a few years now. I went to visit Htoo's Htoo's older sister Paw Bo in the hospital a few years back with another church friend and as she had just had surgery and was not awake we talked with the dad Sayler Moo. He is a wonderful father and devoted to his family. When Htoo Htoo was in the hospital our pastor asked in our bulletin if people could drive some of the sisters back and forth to Children's Hospital in Vancouver. The doctors felt that Htoo Htoo was missing them desperately. We started in October of 2010 taking different members of the family every Wed. evening. They are polite, gracious and thankful. However, it is us (Dale and I) that are thankful that we have gotten to know them. On the drive we would practice English and I would ask them questions about geography, spelling etc. They loved it. I was so amazed at how much they knew. They love Canada! And they love hockey!

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  4. I could go on forever about this family. I am honoured that they have included us in their journey with Htoo Htoo. We were invited to the hospital on the last night of Htoo Htoo's life. Mom and Dad were so caring with her and the other children. They encouraged us to hold Htoo Htoo's hand and speak with her. I was amazed at the strength of both of them. We all wore masks in the room so what we could see was eyes. Eyes that wore grief, exhaustion but most of all love. Love for their daughter who had such a short life.

    • Thank you for caring for a family in need.

    • Wendy, your and your congregation's gift to these new Canadians is inspiring. And your ongoing love and support for this family will make a huge difference.

      Congratulations, thank you, and, most importantly, keep it up! But I am happy to note that you most certainly didn't even need those last three words.

      Rest in peace, Htoo.

  5. Thank you for caring for a family in need.

  6. Wendy, your and your congregation's gift to these new Canadians is inspiring. And your ongoing love and support for this family will make a huge difference.

    Congratulations, thank you, and, most importantly, keep it up! But I am happy to note that you most certainly didn't even need those last three words.

    Rest in peace, Htoo.

  7. In your May 9 issue, letter writer Mindy Wolcott of Ottawa writes: The sadness I felt reading… of Htoo… is coupled with my frustration that refugees upon entry into Canada are not provided with a family doctor… Thus the irony: relatively safe but unsanitary lives in the refugee camps, or sanitary but somewhat isolated lives in Canada.

    Did you print a different article in your paper version? Exactly where is there a "no doctor" issue for this girl? Your second-to-last sentence gives us the sad irony suffered by young Htoo. I have no idea what point Ms. Woolcott is trying to make. Shouldn't you select letters to publish on the basis of their having something to do with the story you published?